Drama is thrilling on a big screen or on the performance stage, but in our personal lives, not so much. In fact, drama is one of the greatest stressors people experience these days. It can start from something as simple as a difference of opinion and lead to a complete split between individuals, families, and community organizations like businesses and churches.
How does it happen that two adults can’t come to agreement? The simple truth is that they have lost, or never developed, the art of compromise. The skill required to compromise automatically indicates that a person is (1) willing to communicate to get to the root of the problem, (2) eager to find a solution, and (3) willing to pass on having their way.
I’d like to say that all people have personality traits like flexibility, consideration for others, and a calm demeanor, but that’s not reality. There are people (you likely know) that are hard wired to have their own way. They make the choice to be unbending. Sometimes these people have a small circle of friends or family who remain close to them throughout their lifetime. I once heard a friend say, “He’s such a pain, but I can’t imagine my life without him.” That’s the choice some people make and they accept it for what it is. Was my friend miserable? No, she led a great life and was happy most of the time.
Sometimes, it’s necessary to agree to disagree. This position doesn’t discount either opinion; however, it does put a solution on the table. Most often, people are willing to settle on terms that are somewhat agreeable to all for the good of the relationship or organization. The best practice for negotiation is to face the problem with an attitude of peace and focus on the benefits of moving forward with a decision.
Best wishes for a happy and peaceful summer.
